I get criticized for telling the world that my sons are intact (not "circumcised"). Of course, that criticism always comes from people who defend genital cutting, but I am still compelled to explain the many reasons that it is important for me to share. And, I DO get that many people don't want those images in their heads.
Yes, it is THEIR genitalia and THEIR lives that are exposed (also proves the point of genital autonomy), but I'm exposing something about myself like it's a badge. Some people put things like "PhD," or "MA" after their name. I used to put "MCSE" after my name. If there was an official acronym for what shows that I have done the study, I would likely use it.
I think that a parent who truly loves their child will do anything for that child; and, I have TWO. So, what about sharing that is doing something for my sons? Multiple things:
1. I made absolutely sure that it was best for their physical health.
So many have gotten this belief that if a human male is not "circumcised" (prepuce amputated) that they are definitely going to have problems and that there is no harm in doing it. After years of second-guessing myself, I kept digging. I've only come to realize that is something people tell themselves to justify the practice and that the truth is actually the opposite. In other blogs and vlogs I've explained how the cognitive dissonance of those in the cutting cultures is extremely deep. It ultimately comes down to having a higher chance of having problems because one less body part is removed and there are several body parts that have higher chances of problems and are unnecessary body parts.
2. I am doing everything I know to make sure that it was, and is, best for their mental (including social) health.
In some cultures, being "uncircumcised" is severely looked down on.
For instance, in the Philippines, nearly all adult males are cut. I recently come to find out that they are often given options about how they are cut, though. So, in that sense, they are better than those who cut babies. However, they have a derogatory term for those who do not get cut: "SUPOT." If we were living in that part of the world, I would be exposing them as "SUPOT."
In certain tribes of Africa, mobs of men will literally tackle a man who has avoided getting cut and cut him right then and there. In the U.S.A. I believe that the mob would get charged with sexual assault and battery.
I'm very thankful for the Internet and social media as it allows more discussion on this topic from people in both cultures who cut as well as those who do not. I know my sons can respond to anyone who attacks them (hopefully only verbally) that they are the ones with normal dicks and that the attacker is culturally conditioned. However, I'm still not satisfied.
As much as I don't want males who were cut as babies/minors to feel bad about their status, I want my sons to feel lucky and proud of their bodies. I want them to feel confident as they go into the world as adults. I also want the people who are missing part of their genitalia to speak up so that the next generation gets to keep all of theirs.
Therefore, until people stop needlessly cutting the genitalia of children, I'm going to continue advocating for my sons and the next generation across the globe.
